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The Male G Spot Is Real—and It's the Secret to an Unbelievable Orgasm

FOR SOME CISGENDER MEN, the idea of someone touching their prostate sounds about as appealing as getting a root canal. But if you can open your mind to the world of anal exploration, you might find that stimulating the prostate can bring new heights of sexual excitement and pleasure.

The prostate has been dubbed the male G-spot (or P-spot) because of its ability to deliver incredible, full-body orgasms. That's because the prostate contains a ton of nerve endings; in fact, there are almost as many nerve endings in the prostate as there are in the clitoris. "It really can open up a whole new avenue of pleasure for men if they are willing to try it," says Susan Milstein, Ph.D., a sex educator and professor in the Department of Health Enhancement, Exercise Science and Physical Education at the Rockville Campus of Montgomery College in Maryland.

FYI, your sexual orientation has absolutely no bearing on whether prostate play is right for you. "Guys have to remember this: The sensations and experiences that feel good have nothing to do with your sexual orientation or gender," Alicia Sinclair, founder and CEO of b-Vibe, a line of innovative vibrating anal toys known for its rimming and weighted butt plugs, says in Men's Health Best. Sex. Ever. "There’s nothing inherently feminine about receiving anal stimulation and penetration. You get to decide what anal play means to you and how you feel about it. And when you can let go of the idea that a sexual act has to be done by a specific gender, you’ll discover some amazing opportunities."

Sales of prostate massagers have been on the rise in recent years. According to 2017 data from the pleasure product company HealthyAndActive, prostate massager sales had increased by 56% in the five years prior, particularly among straight men over the age of 45.

Men can even have prostate orgasms without stimulation to the penis. "The orgasm from your prostate is a full body orgasm, and you feel a tingly sensation all over," says Chris* (last name has been withheld for privacy reasons), a sex educator at The Pleasure Chest in Los Angeles. "This is opposed to the more isolated and direct pleasure from a regular orgasm through masturbation or penetration. In general, a prostate orgasm requires more time to warm up and more energy. But it's totally worth it." See: what 10 people had to say about the differences between prostate and penile orgasms.

What is the prostate—and where is it?

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland below the bladder, above the penis, and in front of the rectum. Its primary function is to create prostate fluid, which is a component of semen. But prostate stimulation can be so pleasurable that some sexual health experts have dubbed the prostate the "male G-spot."

To reach it, you or a partner can insert a finger or toy about two inches into your rectum, hooking it toward your belly button (as opposed to your back). Here's a diagram of how to reach it:

Different people enjoy different types of prostate stimulation, including circular motions and in-and-out penetration. You can try a variety of techniques to see what feels best for you.

You can also stimulate the male G-spot without penetration, by applying pressured massage to the perineum—the patch of skin between the scrotum and the anus.

The P-spot really is a holy grail of male-bodied pleasure.

How to Stimulate the Male G-Spot

If you’ve been sleeping on the P-spot, it’s time to get up. We’ve gathered all the expert tips you need for stimulating the prostate, including the best positions for hitting it.

1) Be prepared.

If you're trying prostate massage by yourself, make sure your hands are clean and your nails are clipped short. (If you're trying it with a partner, check their digits for any hangnails.) Perhaps most importantly, "always use lube, as the anus does not self lubricate. If putting something in your rectum hurts, slow down and add more lube," says Chris. He recommends a syringe-like applicator called a lube shooter if you're uncomfortable applying lube with your fingers.

2) What about poop?

There’s always one big question newbies have when it comes to anal exploration: What about poop? Valid question! After all, expelling feces is the primary purpose of the anus and rectum.

But here’s a little anatomy lesson: The rectum does not store feces. Feces transfers from the intestines and is pushed out through your rectum and then anus. This is important to remember, because a lot of folks have this idea that your poop is just sitting right inside your butthole. Untrue! You’re not going to “hit” a piece of poop if you start poking around up there.

That said, you may still feel more comfortable doing a quick wash beforehand. “Anal preparation is very personal, and folks have different opinions on it,” Sinclair says. There are two main ways you can clean out your rear end: douching using a little bulb, where you squeeze clean water into your behind, and using a hose that you can connect to your shower head and insert into your butt (often referred to as a shower enema).

3) Take baby steps, staring with the perineum.

Before going in, start with a gentle external massage on your perineum (also known as your grundle or taint), which is located between the testicles and anus. The perineum is a highly sensitive yet often overlooked erogenous zone.

"Take some time on your own to get to know your body. Lay on your back with your butt under a pillow, tilting your hips up for easy access. Start with massaging your perineum with your hand or fingers. Apply lube to your finger and rub your anus externally to stimulate the nerve endings," says Chris.

4) Explore internal stimulation.

If the external massage feels good, curve your (at this point, lubed-up) finger into your rectum towards your belly button. "Two or so inches in, you should be able to feel your prostate," says Chris.

It's important to note that you really don't have to go much further than that, particularly on your first try. "People think you need to shove a whole hand up there, but that's not how it works," Milstein says. "Insert one finger a few inches into your anus and push up toward the rear. Wiggle it around a bit, tap the inner walls, and apply different amounts of pressure to see what feels good to you."

If you’re worried about getting “messy,” so to speak, then go ahead and try it in the shower. Still, you’ll want to use plenty of lube. "Silicone lube is one of the best lubes for anal because it contains dimethicone, dimethiconol, and cyclomethicone," Alicia Sinclair, founder of the sex toy brand b-Vibe, previously told Men’s Health. "This creates a consistency that is thicker and more 'buttery' than water-based lubes. Most people find that they prefer a thicker lubricant for anal play because it gives some extra cushion to protect delicate body parts."

The additional thickness means you won’t have to reapply it constantly, the way you’ll likely have to with a water-based lube.

5) Make sure you're turned on!

It’s not going to be comfortable if you attempt prostate stimulation without being turned on. When you’re turned on, your body will work with you, as opposed to against you. You’ll be more relaxed or “looser” and less likely to clench. That’s why it’s good to pull up your favorite porn site, and maybe even masturbate regularly a little before you go ahead and stick a finger up your behind.

6) Remember you can stop whenever you want.

Just like how you walk before you run, you insert fingers before inserting anything else of substantial size up your or your partner’s bum. Slow and steady wins the race here. There is absolutely no reason to rush, and it’s not a competition, either. Take only what you can take. This isn’t a “push through the pain” situation. This is an “if it hurts, stop, slow down, and go back to something tinier” situation.

7) Breathe.

“Breathing is foundational for anal, prostate, and pelvic floor play,” explains Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai, Pelvic PT, certified sexuality counselor and founder of YouSeeLogic.

If you hold your breath the entire time, a few things can happen, Dr. UC warns. First, your body is tricked into the "fight or flight" response. “Basically, it thinks you are being chased by a bear, and that is not the physiological response you want to have during anal play,” she says. You don’t want to clench your anus when your prostate is being stimulated; you want it relaxed so you can easily “take” what’s being inserted inside of you.

“Second, your muscles hold way more tension when you hold your breath, which isn't the goal because you want your pelvic floor to move with ease,” Dr. UC says.

Thus, she recommends experimenting with your breath. “Start with slow and intentional diaphragmatic breathing (inhale as you allow your belly and pelvic floor to expand while keeping your chest still; then exhale and everything returns back to baseline),” she says. Take three seconds to inhale and three seconds to exhale. Do this on your side, back, hands and knees, and reclined. “If you pay attention, you will notice your pelvic floor behave in different ways with your breath,” she says.

8) Try a prostate massager.

Before exploring prostate massagers, you might want to start with a butt plug to get used to the ideas, such as the Nu Sensuelle Remote Control 15-function Vibrating Mini Butt Plug. Proper prostate massagers are designed differently in order to reach the male G-spot—the prostate.

"You always want to buy one with a tail or a wide base that it doesn't get lost up there. You don't want to end up in the 'Butt Bin' at the ER where they keep objects found in people's rectums," jokes Milstein. That said, if you're interested, here are 5 surprisingly common penis injuries that can land you in the ER. (Note: When you’re using a toy, it’s necessary to use water-based lubes, otherwise you can permanently damage or destroy the toy.)

9) Have a partner help you.

Unless you’re extremely flexible, it can be little bit awkward stimulating yourself. It’s by no means impossible, but it can be tough to relax while you're bent like a pretzel. That’s why it’s a good idea to have your partner help you out. When someone else is doing the work for you, you can focus on your breathing, the sensation, and everything else happening to your body.

The Best Sex Positions for Prostate Stimulation

If you're trying prostate massage with a partner, these sex positions will optimize their access to your P-spot. Don't forget to use plenty of lube!

Doggy style

Doggy style might be one of the most straightforward ways to reach the prostate, based entirely on the access you have to the anus. The receiver is on all fours. The giver then penetrates the receiver from behind. The receiver should angle their hand/toy down towards the belly button. This position can offer up a fun play on power dynamics, which can be especially hot.

On your back

In this position, the receiver lies on their back, legs butterflied open. The giver then penetrates the receiver using their hand or a prostate toy. (If you’re a beginner, we recommend using one finger to start.) The giver should then hook up towards the belly button. The giver should be able to feel a ridged gland that feels a bit rough in texture. That’s the P-spot! You can either move the hand in and out, or massage the prostate in circles.

Facedown

The receiver lies on their stomach with their legs open on the bed. The giver then enters their partner from behind with their fingers or a toy. This position allows for shallow penetration, but may make it easier to relax the anus before. You can also skip penetration entirely and simply massage the prostate through the perineum by placing a palm with firm pressure. Not to mention this is kind of the ultimate lazy person position, which can be very appealing.

On your side

The receiver lies on their side, with one or both knees drawn to the chest. The giver lies behind them, in a semi-spooning position, leaving room for their hands or a toy. Having your knees drawn up actually reduces sensations to the penis, which can help the receiver focus on the sensations in their prostate. This position is also quite relaxing, which makes it ideal for anal penetration. The receiver can add a pillow between their legs for extra support and comfort. 

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5 Negative Side Effects Of Anal Sex

When it comes to the negative side effects of anal sex, it's hard to get a straight answer. Because the act of anal sex is still relatively taboo, it’s now easier than ever to get helpful information about all its aspects, including how to do it safely. For people who like it (and who use lots of lube), there are some benefits of anal sex, like the possibility of anal orgasms and feeling closer to your partner. But there are also dangers of anal sex that doctors want you to know about before getting into it.

Whether the thought of anal makes you swoon or cringe, people are doing it in droves. Research by the National Survey of Family Growth, published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) in 2019, found that 32.6% of women had had anal sex with an opposite-sex partner (no stats were available for same-sex anal between women). These stats, according to the CDC, are up quite a bit from the 1990s, when only 20% of women had tried it (or, revealed that they'd tried it).

But, as with everything in life, there are definitely some negatives to having anal sex. Bottoming may not be your style, or you may need to take it very slow as a beginner. For those who love anal sex, are apprehensive about it, or are just plain curious, here are five possible negative side effects to having anal sex.

1. It Can Create Tears In Your Butthole

The reason anal sex aficionados are so adamant about using lube isn’t just because it makes it feel better, but because it also helps limit anal tearing.

“Your anal canal is really absorbent, and unlike a vagina, your butt is not self-lubricating, so you absolutely need to use lube when you're having anal sex to avoid tearing, which can increase risk for STI transmission,” sex educator Emma McGowan previously wrote for Bustle. While anal tearing may not seem like that big of a deal (although uncomfortable), and all STIs are treatable, having cuts in your butthole is a recipe for all sorts of bacteria that can easily make their way into the bloodstream.

Harvard Health notes that while some tears can be superficial, others can be deeper, harder to heal, and more likely to get infected. Doctors recommend that people doing anal sex use both lube and a condom in order to minimize anal tears and protect from STIs. Double check that the lube itself is compatible with the condom, since oil-based lubes can degrade latex.

2. Anal Sex Carries The Highest Risk Of STIs

According to the CDC, anal sex is the riskiest type of sex that people can have. One of the major dangers of anal sex is how easily it can be to contract and transmit HIV when having it. Because the anus doesn't naturally produce lubrication and the skin in this area is very thin, anal tears are basically welcome mats for HIV, HPV, and other STIs. It’s one of the potential side effects of bottoming.

"It's important to remember that [STIs] can be transmitted through anal sex as well as vaginal sex," Dr. Jennifer Caudle M.D., a family physician and assistant professor at Rowan University School of Osteopathic Medicine, tells Bustle. A review of data from the National Survey of Family Growth in 2016 found that in women who had anal sex recently — within the past three months — rectal chlamydia and gonorrhea were almost as common as UTIs. But these illnesses were often missed because a lot of sexual health checks for women only involve the front, not the back door.

Condom use can help prevent transmission of all STIs, and therefore are a must during anal (or any non-monogamous sex you’re having). And doctors now recommending that if you have anal sex, you tell the person conducting your next sexual wellness check about it.

3. Anal Sex Is Linked To Anal Cancer

One of the STIs anal sex puts people at risk of is human papilloma virus (HPV), which is linked with oral, cervical, and anal cancers, according to the American Cancer Society. Not all kinds of HPV are linked to cancer (and you can be vaccinated against those that are), and many strains are asymptomatic, but experts advise that HPV and its associated illnesses are one of the risks of anal sex.

"Even though [HPV] usually goes away on its own, in some cases it does cause cancer," Jill McDevitt, Ph.D., CalExotics resident sexologist and sexuality educator, tells Bustle. "HPV is considered the main cause of anal cancer." The CDC estimates that every year in the U.S., around 4,700 cases of HPV-associated anal cancers are diagnosed in women and 2,300 in men. A 2020 study published in Journal of the National Cancer Institute found that anal cancers have been rising in the past 15 years, in part because of higher HPV rates.

While McDevitt points out that pap smears — cervical screening for the presence of possible pre-cancerous and cancerous cells — aren't just well-known but routine, the case is not the same for anal pap smears. "Anal paps also exist," McDevitt says. "But there are currently no national guidelines for routine screenings, to my knowledge." You can still request an anal pap from your health care provider if you're concerned about contracting a cancer-linked strain of HPV.

4. Infections, Generally, Are More Prevalent With Anal Sex

Let’s not beat around the bush: The anus is a direct path to the bowels. Bowels are, of course, home to poop. Poop is a waste product that's bursting at the seams with bacteria and other not so fun stuff.

Once you subtract the STI part of the equation, it's time to think of the infections that come with E. coli — the bacteria that live in the bowels. Spreading E.coli to mouths or other orifices carries risks; for one, E.coli is one of the main causes of a urinary tract infection in women after anal sex,according to a 2015 study in African Journal of Reproductive Health.

This also means that going from anal sex to vaginal sex, without properly washing in between, may increase the risk of a partner with a vagina getting a UTI, as well as other possible unpleasant infections.

"A condom is the safest thing in terms of not sharing good old fashioned bacterial infections [during anal]," Laura Deitsch, a licensed clinical counselor and sexologist, told Bustle in a previous article. "If rimming is going to be part of your play (mouth to anus) be sure to clean really well around the area ahead of time."

5. There's The Potential For A Sh*tty Situation

Newton’s third law of motion states, “What comes up, must come down.” This applies to both gravity and poop coming out of your butt after anal. Puns aside, this sh*tty situation extends far past the possibility of anal sex with a side of poop. A 2016 study published in Journal of Gastroenterology found that anal sex may lead to fecal incontinence. While the research found that both men and women can experience fecal incontinence because of anal sex, it’s men who deal with it more.

For people who have any sort of gastrointestinal (GI) problems, then the dangers of anal sex become even more complicated. "Something else to note as far as the negative side of anal sex is for folks who have GI issues, like Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) or Crohn's Disease," McDevitt says. "It can already be a painful area of the body, and anecdotally, many people who have GI problems struggle with anal sex."

While anal sex may have some negative side effects, some that may even be considered dangerous, experts say bottoming can have its benefits, and it’s good to be knowledgable about the dangers and how to manage them. "There is a downside to most things, including sex," McDevitt says. "It's about being informed and weighing risks, and ultimately doing what's best for you."